Friday, December 6, 2013
I have struggled with perfectionism from my earliest days. I can remember barring my parents from track meets as a child, so fearful was I that I wouldn't place well and be embarrassed. (My parents couldn't have cared less how I placed, and were likely quite hurt by the fact that I didn't seem to want them at my races.) I remember feigning illness during a scholastic competition at school because I was going to win in all likelihood, but there was a chance that I wouldn't... can remember saying "no" to opportunities for schooling and jobs in my young adulthood because I was fearful of being a small fish in a big pond. I remember being limited by my attitude. Perhaps it's because I'm the first born of my family, or perhaps it's because I come from a long line of perfectionists. The cause really doesn't matter, I suppose. The fact is, I have been given the characteristic of perfectionism in this life, and I need to figure out how to cope with the less than desirable aspects of that trait.
This is what I've been thinking about a lot of late. How this perfectionism- so often the unwitting source of pride for me- as not been serving me well. As the mother of young children (four of them no less) I often have to accept a "good enough" standard for their benefit, so I know I have the capacity to extend grace when necessary, and to overlook the less-than-perfect attempts that children make while on the path to achievement.
I'd like to go on record here by saying that this is extremely, exorbitantly, terrifically difficult for me to do. But I persist because it's the right thing to do as a parent. When I watch little hands wipe down the counters only to push the crumbs to the floor, I praise the job well done. When I come across clothes stuffed into drawers and toys mashed into toy bins, I sing praises and give accolades because the intent is spot-on even if the execution needs work. When I find toothpaste smears all over the sink because some little person tried to clean up their own mess, I forgive and give space because I know a small hand has been hard at work to keep our home clean. (OK, I secretly cringe at the last one but come on- toothpaste all over the sink is SO gross!)
So, why give the credit to my children when I know they've been working hard, but deny myself that same kindness? Why? Because my perfectionism allows me to believe that it's OK to overlook the faults of others- but not my own- as if I'm some superhuman being sent here from Planet Perfect to mingle with the natives and understand their ways...
I rob myself of joy, holding onto this impossible standard. I really do. When I'm in "that place" where nothing seems good enough I take away my ability to enjoy the moment- the process- and the fact that I am human. The best lessons I have learned in my life have come from mistakes, but a perfectionist attidude leaves no room for those same valuable mistakes (it must have been someone else's fault, after all) and therefore no room for growth.
So I am reminding myself to be kind. Not just to my husband, my kids, the people at the store who ran out of the last ingredient to make my grammie's pecan sandies... no, kind to myself. Permissive of my human condition. And grateful for the many, many, many opportunities I have in this life to learn.
How do you tame the perfectionism beast? Do you treat yourself with as much kindness as you treat others?
Sunday, October 27, 2013
... Meredith Alice Keniston, born October 15th, 2013 at 3:32 a.m. She weighed 6 lbs., 7.5 oz and measured in at 19 inches. We are all quite well and reveling in our new status as a family of six (SIX!). We are so appreciative of the well-wishes and lovely messages we've received from those of you who spotted a new baby in my Instagram feed. More details to come, but for now we're enjoying some quiet family time as we all get to know one another earthside.
Our new little family member:
Our new little family member:
Thursday, September 19, 2013
But now it's time!
We are beginning school this week, and we're doing so slowly, with only a Five in A Row book and no other work right off the bat. Read on to find out what we're up to!
We used our classroom bulletin board to display the crafts of our unit.
1+1+1=1's B is for Bear printable worked well for our younger learners as we worked the fine motor skills needed to cut out the bears and glue them onto the provided B's. It also reinforced the name of the letter and the sound it makes. (It was such a beautiful day we did school on the deck, too!)
We made our own upper- and lowercase B's and practiced "B is for blueberry" by painting the B's with blue paint and a simple homemade stamp (from furniture pads to keep chair legs from scraping the floor- what are those really called??).
My older child practiced retelling the story and writing about it using the Homeschool Creations template (link in the resources below), while my younger learners used a felt story set I made to recall and re-tell main events in the story.
|Upside down, yes. But you get the idea. The kids made the blueberries at the top of the board while I made the rest.|
Transferring blueberries with tweezers between pails is a variation on a classic Montessori activity that our kids really enjoy.
We were inspired to try Growing Kinders' blueberry counting math center, (above).
For my older child I created a quick estimation game about how many blueberries were in different sized containers. Once he made his estimate, we counted out what five blueberries looked like and I asked him if he wanted to change is estimate. Then we counted out what ten looked like and I asked the same question. We continued until we found how many blueberries were in the container. The unexpected bonus was that to count them all he practiced counting by fives and tens! Eating them was the best part, of course.
I also bought some cultivated blueberries (which are much larger than the wild, native blueberries that grow here) and asked the younger kids to compare the sizes. We did a simple big, bigger, biggest activity with a few sets of blueberries, and then promptly devoured our materials. Math can be so delicious.
We made these fun little blueberry basket crafts using potato stamps from Little Page Turners, which I somehow failed to take pictures of. Huh.
Since we are fortunate to live in Maine, where lots and lots of real bears live, we thought we had better pay those bears a visit! So, off we went to the Maine Wildlife Park to learn about bears, and feed them too!
At the beginning of the week I presented the kids with a simple KWL activity on my chalkboard door. (For those who don't know about KWL, the idea is to get kids to brainstorm 1) what they already Know, 2) what they Want to know, and 3) what they Learned as they completed the lesson. There's a great downloadable KWL chart here if you don't have a chalkboard door to use.) So we were able to update our KWL chart after our trip, and we went to the park with clipboards that listed our questions and gave us space to record our answers.
Once we had done our KWL, I made up a simple worksheet for the kids to complete during (and after) our visit to the bears so they could share the information they learned. If you'd like to download it, click here.
Again, since we live in Maine, I took the opportunity to do a bit more "in-depth" geography exploration than I otherwise might. It was so fun, and I was so pleased to find that the kids really responded with interest when learning about their home state.
We used these dot-to-dot puzzles to make Maine and we did some research about our state here,
We used the Maine resources and printables from Confessions of a Homeschooler's Road Map USA curriculum (which I highly recommend). The "state report" was a good fit for my first grader, and introduced us to the use of an atlas to find out information about a particular geographic location.
My teaching certification happened to be up for renewal this year as well (I'm a certified teacher in Maine and maintain my certification now that I homeschool so that I can provide homeschool consulting services), and instead of mailing in my renewal form I tool the kids to the state capitol to drop off the paperwork. While we were there we visited the State Senate and State House, practiced making our own laws (about conservation of environmental resources, no less), and did a fossil hunt (you read that right) in the capitol building. It was such a fun way to learn more about our state and to get an errand done at the same time!
Other Activities During Our Week
We picked blueberries! (Click here to find a spot to pick blueberries near you.)
|Blueberry Zucchini Smoothies|
Other resources we've used during this unit:
Homeschool Creations' Blueberries for Sal printables
Great tie-in books:
Jamberry by Bruce Degan
Journey Around Maine From A to Z by Martha Zschock and Heather Zschock
Bear Wants More by Karma Wilson and Jane Chapman
Peter in Blueberry Land by Elsa Beskow
Tuesday, August 20, 2013
We made blueberry-zucchini smoothies, frozen yogurt drops, and squeeze yogurt pops. Before you judge- you can't even taste the zucchini and I didn't share with my kiddos that it was in there. They never suspected a thing...
You will need: (all amounts are approximate- use your taste to determine your preferences)
A small organic zucchini, peeled and chopped
A small organic apple, peeled and chopped (sweet varieties work best)
A pint or so of organic blueberries (frozen or fresh will work)
Organic Greek yogurt (I recommend raw)
Milk or coconut milk, to thin the mixture as necessary
Flax seed (optional)
Raw honey or maple syrup to sweeten, optional
First, we combined our ingredients with an immersion blender. Here you see raw, organic yogurt, frozen blueberries (fresh are great too), chopped zucchini, chopped apple and flax seed.
freeze pop molds. (Check out my whole post on making homemade squeeze yogurt here.)
making frozen yogurt drops. Here's our two-year-old doing just that!
Once our yogurt pops and yogurt drops were complete, it was time to make a smoothie. I added a touch more milk to thin the consistency of the original mixture some more, and voila! instant smoothie. Store this in a mason jar in the refrigerator for a couple of days so you don't have to make a new smoothie everyday. You just shake it up if the ingredients have begun to separate, and you're good to drink!
That wraps up my yummy blueberry-zucchini yogurt done three ways. What are you eating right now that's healthy and versatile?
By the way, we're making all this blueberry deliciousness because we're reading Blueberries for Sal this week in our Five in a Row homeschool.